Hello and welcome to my website.

 I am an integrative Counsellor & Psychotherapist, qualified to work with individuals and couples sessions via Zoom, telephone, or in-person sessions.

I also offer group counselling.

My private practice is in Barnet, Finchley, North London, N20.

Most of us have times in our lives when things can get on top of us and we find it hard to cope. If you’re reading this you may have hit just such a rocky patch and be thinking about having some counselling or psychotherapy. When embarking on the therapeutic journey it is important to find a counsellor or therapist you feel comfortable working with so I hope that I can give you an idea of what it might be like to work with me.

My therapeutic aim is enabling you to enhance your life and live more fully. We will work collaboratively to identify the sources of your emotional difficulties. I will help you to gain a deeper insight into your struggle while getting to the root of the problem. I offer short-term and long-term counselling and psychotherapy from my private practice in Barnet, Finchley, North London, N20 and online. My private

My theoretical background is integrative psychotherapy which combines carefully selected complimentary therapeutic approaches and interventions in order to adapt and adjust to your needs.

In addition, my core therapeutic approach is Intensive Short-term Dynamic Psychotherapy (ISTDP), an emotionally-focused process based in the attachment frame-work.

I am a member of the Black and Asian Therapy Network (BAATN) and will work with you through the lens of your cultural experience. I offer therapy in English and Punjabi. I am committed to providing sessions in a safe, confidential and non-judgemental space.

I am qualified and experienced in working with clients who are neuro-diverse to help them identify and manage the emotional repercussions of living with neurodiversity in a linear world; this includes Dyslexia, Dyspraxia, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) and Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD).

I am a registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).

I have over 15 years of experience working in NHS IAPT counselling and psychotherapy services, as well as in various therapeutic community-based settings.

I am experienced in helping people who have difficulties with: 

Addiction; Anger; Anxiety, Stress and Panic Attacks; Bereavement and Loss; Depression; Domestic Abuse and Sexual Violence involving Trauma-Focused Therapy; and Relationship Problems. Please see below for more details.

“There are three things we cry for in life: things that are lost, things that are found, and things that are magnificent.”

― Douglas Coupland

Areas of Work


Please open the relevant drop-down tabs below where I explain more about each difficulty

Addiction

Frequently indulging in something that feels good at the time then causes other problems is a vicious cycle that can be hard to get out of. Addiction is the result of a maladaptive coping mechanism that keeps people stuck in their life, an avoidant behaviour within most cases connected to early life trauma. Addiction could be drugs, drink, sex, anxiety, food, excessive shopping or spending large amounts of money the list goes on. Working together we will explore and identify the triggers related to trauma that leads to addictive behaviour and find new ways to break the vicious cycle you are in through making alternative choices to achieve positive change.

Anger

Are you experiencing feelings of rage that feel impossible to contain, leading to explosive outbursts, breaking things, becoming violent, arguing with the people around you, losing your temper quickly, and lashing out physically or verbally? We can work together to identify the triggers for your anger and to find different ways for you to respond and express your emotions appropriately. By learning methods to manage your anger you can use it constructively to motivate yourself or solve problems.

Anxiety, Stress, & Panic Attacks

Though these issues can affect different people in different ways, I have put them together under the same umbrella as they can all be debilitating and overwhelming in a similar way, causing difficulty with functioning on a day-to-day basis; you may find yourself avoiding certain social situations and other people, or put off carrying out necessary daily tasks and activities. Recognising the negative effect anxiety, stress, and panic attacks have on your life, and understanding that this is not OK is an important first step. Counselling and psychotherapy can help, as through working together, we will understand the difficulties you're experiencing and identify any underlying issues that may be causing your anxiety, stress, or panic attacks. Once your personal stress triggers are identified we will find new ways of coping thereby reducing their occurrence.

Bereavement & Loss

This could be grief following the death of loved ones, your own serious illness, or the loss of something or someone. Through counselling, I can help you with understanding your mourning process, explore issues that could potentially prevent you from moving on, resolve any conflict still remaining, and aid you in adjusting to a new sense of self.

Depression

If you're feeling deeply unmotivated and disconnected, unable to engage in life, or in a low mood that feels inescapable no matter what you do or try, constantly tearful and worried, having problems with concentration, irritable and intolerant of others, or indecisive then you may be experiencing depression. Counselling and psychotherapy can help you move forward.

Domestic Abuse & Sexual Violence

Some statistics: 1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence in their lifetimes. 35 is the average number of times a woman is assaulted before calling for help. You can click here to find out more.


I have many years of experience working as a front line practitioner with women and girls affected by domestic and sexual violence. I aim to provide trauma-focused therapy creating a therapeutic process that is reparation in nature, building trust through transparency within the client/therapist relationship. I work at my client’s pace to create a safe environment where the presenting trauma can be explored. I will work collaboratively with you in order to restore the power and control that the abuse took away and to empower you to make your own informed life choices and not to be defined by the abuse.

Relationship Problems

Intimate relationships are the source of great highs and sometimes unbearable lows, whether it is with your family, partner or friends. You may also be finding work colleagues difficult or be struggling to adapt to different social situations while maintaining a true sense of 'me'. We can explore and understand the emotional dynamic that upsets the relationships most important to you. Click on Couples Therapy.

My practice is located in Barnet, Finchley, North London, N2O

My practice is in Barnet, Finchley, North London, N20 with great accessibility via public transport including buses, underground/over-ground railway stations. Also, free parking if travelling via car to session.


The nearest London Underground tube stations are: Totteridge & Whetstone (Northern Line, High Barnet branch) and Arnos Grove (Piccadilly line).

Directions from Totteridge & Whetstone tube station

  • Turn left upon exiting the station
  • Walk up the hill to bus stop A
  • Catch the 251 bus towards Arnos Grove
  • After approximately 5 minutes, alight at bus stop BE - Bawtry Road
  • Cross over the road and turn right
  • Walk up the hill to The York Arms pub (closed)
  • Turn left onto York Way
  • At the end of York Way turn left onto Manor Drive
  • 5 minutes walk to practice

Directions from Arnos Grove tube station:

  • Upon exiting the station cross over the road
  • From bus stop A catch the 34 bus towards Barnet Church or:
  • From bus stop, B catch the 251 bus towards Edgware
  • After approximately 5 minutes, alight at bus stop BK - Bawtry Road
  • Turn right and walk up the hill to The York Arms pub (closed)
  • Turn left onto York Way
  • At the end of York Way turn left onto Manor Drive
  • 5 minutes walk to practice

Get in touch

Please contact me on 07903 427 496 and leave a voice message.

Alternatively, you can send me an email through my contact form and I will respond back to you within 24 hours.


All contact is strictly confidential and uses secure phone and email services.


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